Grief often comes with divorce. A journey of transformation can follow. Loss, as devastating as it can be, does have the potential to become a catalyst for growth, self-awareness, and resilience. Here’s a breakdown of some key ideas:

  1.   The Brain and Grief: Research confirms that grief disrupts normal brain functioning. This “remapping” process, where the brain adjusts to the absence of a loved one, can feel devastating but is essential for healing. It’s a reminder of how integral connections are to our sense of self.
  2.   The Rupture and Perspective: Being in the midst of loss feels like chaos and rupture. Over time, however, many people gain perspective, learning valuable lessons about themselves and their capacity for resilience.
  3.     Divorce as a Mental Battle: Divorce is a unique kind of grief, which can be accompanied by guilt, shame, and feelings of failure. It challenges a person’s sense of identity and self-worth, often forcing them to rebuild emotionally and mentally.
  4.   The Duality of Shattered and Future Self: The paradox of loss is that while you feel utterly destroyed, there is a simultaneous opportunity to care for and recover or excavate a new version of yourself-a future self that can love and trust again.
  5.   Moving Forward and Growth: repeated failures and setbacks may feel defeating, but each step forward, no matter how small, contributes to healing. Loss and failure are not the end – they’re opportunities for transformation and renewal.
  6.   Shift from Chaos to Strategy.

Divorce is not a static event; it’s dynamic and ever-changing. Rather than being overwhelmed by chaos, the focus can be on finding calm in the moment.

We will work together to help you stay present and grounded, even as things shift unpredictably. Helping you align your actions with your long-term values and goals.